Congratulations! You've mustered the courage to book a session and now you're all anxious and excited, counting down the hours or days until we meet. First of all, give yourself a pat on the back. It can be scary to try something new with someone you've never met, and the fact that you had the guts to do it tells me you are taking a great step towards your self care. Woohoo--high five--fist bump! Okay, so now what?!
Take a deep breath. Seriously. In for three seconds, out for three seconds, and repeat. The short answer is relax. You've got this, and I've got this. You're dealing with a professional here. It's my job to take care of you, help you feel welcome, and to guide you on this experience. I've been helping people relax and experience pleasure for over two years now and have a stellar reputation in the industry with over 60 five star reviews (and zero alerts) on the industry's local member board TNA (the equivalent of Yelp but for industry professionals). Before that, I was a masters-level counselor in private practice, adhering to strict ethical guidelines for counseling folks struggling with trauma. I'm also an Army veteran if that means something to you. Credentials aside, I'm very skilled at what I do and take your confidentiality and our work together very seriously.
So what to do? We've got the "stay calm" part under control, so the rest is pretty simple. Be sure to have a nice long cleansing shower and tooth brusing/flossing sesh prior to our meeting. If that isn't possible, don't worry. When you arrive for your session you are welcome to use my fully stocked shower and bathroom. You will have the opportunity at the end of our session to use the shower again to clean up and get ready to continue with your day.
The next tip is probably the most important of all: BE ON TIME. Seriously, I did mention I was in the Army, right? I am super anal about timeliness. In the Army I learned if you're not 10 minutes early, you're 10 minutes late...I won't hold you to that standard but please in the very least be on time. If you are running late, let me know ASAP. Please be aware that if you do arrive late I will not be able to go over on our time. When you reserve a time with me, that's the time I make myself available for and it's up to you to honor that. Please plan ahead accordingly. My location is in downtown Bothell near the library, plug that into your GPS ahead of time and factor for rush hour depending on your appointment time. Plan on arriving at least 5-10 minutes early to account for parking. When you arrive, text me. That's when I send you my exact location info.
Speaking of timeliness, let's talk about rescheduling and cancelling. I need 24 hours notice for cancellations and/or rescheduling. This is really important. I put a lot of time, effort, and planning into my sessions and if I don't get adequate notice for cancellations, I will ask you to compensate me for my time (I'll send you an invoice for half of the missed session). If you need to cancel or reschedule, please let me know ASAP so that I can offer that time to someone else and recover income. I'm a small business and this is my full time job. Please respect my time and treat me as you would any other professional such as a doctor or dentist...cancellations, reschedules, and no shows greatly affect my livelihood.
Now let's cover some "don't do's". Don't email or text me asking a bunch of questions after you've already scheduled (or before for that matter). I get it, sometimes those questions come from a place of anxiety or discomfort, but you're just going to need to trust the process. Lots of questions, especially ones aimed at trying to ask what our session will include, sketch me out and I cancel sessions when I feel uncomfortable. This may seem excessive, but experience has taught me that it's just not worth it...you really would not believe the level of bullshittery professionals such as myself have to deal with and 9 times out of 10 I err on the side of caution. Questions such as "Are you with law enforcement?", questions with menu items, and even "How much?" are completely inappropriate questions to ask. You make yourself seem very suspicious when asking those questions, not to mention they are just unnecessary...I have stated what I want to share about sessions on my website (the rest we will discuss in person) and nothing nefarious is occurring here (you make it sound nefarious when you ask silly questions, darn it!). I am a professional, a healing guide and we are simply setting up a time to meet. So simple!
A few more things. I will always respect your boundaries, so please respect mine. Relax and let me do what I do best. My sessions are one way touch, from me to you. I will guide you. The more you can relax and let me do my thing, the better experience you will have. Speaking of relaxation, that's the last tip I have to offer! Challenge yourself to see how much you can let go into relaxation. Use mindfulness skills to bring yourself more fully into the moment (if you don't know anything about mindfulness, let me know and I'll help!). The more you can be present and attuned to your body, the more you will relax and enjoy the session. You don't need to worry about what to do, what to say, or really anything other than relaxing and feeling all the good feelings. If something doesn't feel good or you'd like more of something, just ask! It's a great opportunity to ask for what you want and get the kind of touch you desire and deserve.
That's about it! Hopefully by now you're getting the theme...relax! That's what this is all about and I can't wait to help you deep dive even further into a relaxing, recharging, healing experience.